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(2Sam 16:22 [KJV])
So they spread Absalom a tent upon the top of the house; and Absalom went in unto (sex) his father’s concubines (wives) in the sight of all Israel.

There is a right and wrong way to become one flesh in the word of God. This study seeks to clarify what the right and wrong way is. Be blessed as you read and understand.


First the following is based on the precept that God has outlined in the Torah. TTGM will make a comment and then we will give the scriptural foundation to support my statement. 

The word states that a man should leave his parents and take a wife and the two shall be one flesh (marriage)
(Gen 2:24 [KJV])
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

To start the process to become one flesh, obviously there must be an agreement between the two parties. After the agreement is made there is a purchase price paid (or gifts given) by the man/family to the wife/family. Why? The Bible is based on the Kingdom and how it should work (the laws/commandments must be followed). Finally after the agreement, the betrothal period starts until the marriage has been consummated (becoming one flesh = sex). Note: During the betrothal period the couple is referred to as husband and wife (Joseph was called a husband during the betrothal period). YOU SAY: I hear you on the purchase, but there is no need to pay for a woman (wife) today. Our answer: What the world practices today is pagan/heathen. Even now, if you give your life to Yeshua and to show your love, you decide to keep His commandments (Torah), you are then “redeemed” (purchased), and the transaction is done by His precious Blood (not dollars).  When you call Him Lord (Yeshua), the meaning of the word (Lord) is owner (this is why Sarah called Abraham “lord”; she too was calling him owner. Why? Abraham purchased her.   

(Gen 24:50-51 [KJV])

Then Laban and Bethuel answered and said, The thing proceedeth from the LORD: we cannot speak unto thee bad or good. 51 Behold, Rebekah is before thee, take her, and go, and let her be thy master’s son’s wife, as the LORD hath spoken. 

Payment – Gifts are given and in other chapters, a bride price is given (more on this about the kingdom coming soon):
(Gen 24:53 [KJV])
And the servant brought forth jewels of silver, and jewels of gold, and raiment, and gave them to Rebekah: he gave also to her brother and to her mother precious things.

Then we have the consummation – sex (You will note that there is no priest/pastor/state involved in marriage).

(Gen 24:67 [KJV])
And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent, and took (they became one flesh) Rebekah, and she became his wife (no priest); and he loved her: and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.

IMPORTANT: In God’s Kingdom, when a man goes into a woman and becomes one flesh, that man is expected to take care of that woman for the rest of his life. Also, if a man has a wife and he goes into a second woman, he must also take care of her in the same way as the first (He will now have two wives) – Visit this page more for more information. 


If you and your partner agree to come together without a lifelong commitment, it is the wrong way to become one flesh in the Kingdom of God.

It is important to note that you can become one flesh with a harlot (a woman who gives herself to several men without a commitment). You will notice that Paul links this joining to a harlot with God’s foundation for marriage as found in Genesis 2:24.

(1Cor 6:16 [KJV]) – Paul writes.
What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.

When you become one flesh without commitment, God calls you a fornicator which also carries the same meaning as a whore or whoremonger. FORNICATION DOES NOT MEAN SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE AS THE CHURCH TELLS ITS CONGREGANTS. In scripture fornication means whore/whoredom.

Fornication = Whore = H2181 זָנָה zanah (zaw-naw’) v. (same Hebrew word used)

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In conclusion, the right way to become one flesh is to have a lifelong commitment and a payment is required for the wife (if she is under authority/ownership).  The wrong way to become one flesh is to have sexual relations without a lifelong commitment; this is called fornication/whoredom.  Also, for a man to have sex with a woman that is already one flesh (married) to another man this is called adultery (this is wrong too – this is what Absalom did in 2 Sam 16:22).

I recommend you listen to this presentation that shares on what marriage is. Connecting links on this page go into greater detail. Visit this page.

The following link takes you to a chart that you can download for free that shows the betrothal to consummation relationship. Visit this page.

To understand the biological changes that occur when two people become one, watch presentation 2. View this page.


This practice of marriage in today’s world started under the penalty of severe punishment in the year 1563. Most people today say that there is nothing wrong with having a priest and two witnesses. To the thinking person, this law brought a change from God’s precept (the reason for the severe punishment to anyone that wanted to stay in God’s way). It also changed the meaning of words from scripture… For more on this visit this page.

Here is the ROMAN law that the church now lives by that was implemented under the threat of SEVERE PUNISHMENT. Visit this page.  

The many will continue to follow after the ways of men. This sharing is for the few who want to obey the way of God and to be obedient to His will (commandments).

To love Yeshua and keep His commandments (Torah).
(John 14:15 [KJV])
If ye love me, keep my commandments (Torah).

Be blessed in understanding.

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You either walk in the Law of Rome (disobedience) or you walk in the law of God (obedience) 

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