What is a Family?

The following is a response to a friend (Greaves) that asked TTGM, what is a family?

What is a family?

Here is the post that Greaves responded to that was sent out by TTGM on February 19, 2022.

Why should we give our business to Family first?

I decided to put this in writing.

In Business, I always tell people to give work to family and close friends first, that are capable (Jews, Muslims etc do it and it works for them). When you build your family up, you build yourself up even more.

Many do not know why this principle is important. It is simple, and here it is.

If you give your efforts, time, and money to others (outside of family), you are building up strangers. When and if you start to go down, or SICK, or go out of business, or depressed for some reason, who will come by your side to support you? The stranger that you helped out? No, your poor family that may be struggling will have to come and help you. The stranger will be too busy taking care of his own. And do not think for one moment that it will always be good.

The Bajan Eagle always says, “Be blessed in Understanding

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Apologist Response to Greaves

Completed by TTGM – 20.02.2023

Greaves wrote (GW) in response to the above post:
My first question is. What is family?

TTGM’s Response (TR):

My answer will be based on the Book of books and not what man thinks or feels.

A family is the makeup of a man’s house; not the physical house but rather the bloodline (his seed) that is started by the man and his woman/women. Everyone that is birthed into that house by the man’s seed is called the family (wife/wives, concubines, and children).

There is also an authority structure in the family. The man is the head of the woman and the woman is over the children and her concubines. The head of the man is Christ.

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Agreed ……

So please break down and explain this.
“But Jesus answered the one who was telling Him and said, “Who is My mother and who are My brothers?” And stretching out His hand toward His disciples, He said, “Behold My mother and My brothers! For whoever does the will of My Father who is in heaven, he is My brother and sister and mother.”

And explain how this ties into the answer you just gave me.


Here it goes.

To be in the family (brothers, sisters, mothers etc) of Christ you have to be doing the Father’s will. If you do not do the Father’s will you CANNOT be in the family of Christ.

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So to be in the family for Christ you need to be doing the father’s will this means to be in a particular family all the members need to be thinking about a common goal. Am I right in saying this?


What you stated sounds like you are saying the Father’s will is a common goal.

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So let me clarify the question for you. To be in a family means to have one common mind and goal?


To be in the family of Christ, you have to do/keep the will of God. This is a SPIRITUAL relationship.

To be in the family of man, it is by blood (or adoption). This is a FLESH relationship.


To know God and to get into His family, one has to be BORN AGAIN. Born of the SPIRIT.

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Ok …..so would you consider close friends as a family?


Take God out..

If they are just friends, they are friends. They may feel like family. However, feelings cannot put one person into another person’s family. In other words, they have two different names. A family is determined by name, and the house they come from. Eg. You have the house of David, and anyone born outside the house of David cannot be in his family. They will have a different name from another house.

Anyone that accepts Christ no longer has an earthly father (REM: Yeshua said, call no man father on the earth – Matt 23:9). Why? When we accept Christ and get filled with His Spirit (Comforter) and are born again, our Father is now God. He (God) is now our Father.

The two friends (in Christ) become Brothers in the Lord. They are both in the family of God. In God, Yes, they are family. They will be together for all eternity.

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Thank you TTGM, just wanted to see where your mind is.


A more important question for you.

What is the will of the Father that He wants the believer to do?

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The best question yet ……I will say tho “every body’s got to know for themselves”

Here is the answer, He told us His will in both the Old and New Testaments. 

In the Old Testament.
His will is what He wants us to do. If we do it, He will give us mercy. Again, what is His will? His will is that we love Him and keep His commandments. It is written.

(Exod 20:6 [KJV])
And shewing mercy unto thousands of them that love me, and keep my commandments.

In the New Testament, He said the same thing. If we do His will, His mercy will come by Him giving us the comforter to help us on our journey to eternity.
(John 14:15-16 [KJV])
If ye love me, keep my commandments. 16 And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter (Holy Spirit), that he may abide with you for ever;
Do you think you will get the comforter if you do not keep His commandments?

No need to answer.

For further study, here is a paper on “What is God’s Will”

You see GM, Many are called, but Few are chosen. Only a Few will get into His Kingdom. Why? They love Him and Keep His commandments (The Few keep His will).

The Many say Lord Lord, cast out devils, etc but will be told they work iniquity.
(Matt 7:22-23 [KJV])
Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? 23 And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.

Do you know what iniquity is?

Hint: It has to do with commandments.

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Dude……. Fancy word for sin (biblical )
Anything that is immoral based on a standard of living

Not exactly the standard of living. Iniquity means, the transgression of God’s law. The Many do not know the law of God, so they work iniquity every day of their lives.

Here is a paper on iniquity.

Take your time.

Last on this.
When God told us to Keep His commandments in the Old and the New Testament He meant the law of God (the law contains His commandments). The law is also called the Torah, which means instructions.

When you go to the church building you are told the law no longer applies. Hence everyone stays in their iniquity (The Many). They cast out devils etc and are lost. They have been deceived.

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Do you preach, Do you teach,  Do you prophecy, Do you flow in the didactic, Do you flow in revaluation???

I keep His commandments. Yes, I teach, He commanded me to teach. I teach the nations as commanded. It is written.
(Matt 28:19 [KJV])
Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost:

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It looks like you preach. I understand now.

I do not interpret the Bible, I let the Bible interpret itself. It is for no one’s private/personal interpretation. My website is based on this approach.

On the Home page, you can read what it’s written under Sola Scriptura


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