Does the verse
under study give an option for the wife to be separate from the Husband?
The world church teaches that this verse is an option that a
woman can take if she feels compelled to leave her husband.
TTGM will try to meat out the meaning of these verses by
using a question and answer format. We will do it in three bites.
Question to wife: Where does it say that
separation from your husband is an option in the captioned verses 10-11?
Answer: There is NO option
TTGM: Why? The command is coming
from the Lord and He explicitly states, “Let not the wife depart from her husband”. No option is spoken in this command
or after. Following on from what was commanded a “but” (conjunction) is
used; this implies that the woman knows the command but decides to do
otherwise (for reason).
Let us use an analogy for those that are not yet up to
You are working
at a desk and your boss comes out of his office and instructs/commands you
to stay in your chair for one hour. Note: He did not say you can get up and
come back every 5 minutes, He did not say you can leave in that hour if you
feel like it, if he did this, he would have given you an option. The Lord
gave no option in Verse 10 or 11.
Question: Your boss leaves, “but” then
you decide to leave the chair. Have you broken the order/command from your
Conclusion: You did not exercise an
option given to you, you exercised your choice to get up and do as you so
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Question: If the wife departs (by
choice) in disobedience to the Lord’s command, under what circumstances
would justify this?
Answer: No clear answer was given.
TTGM Answers (based on doctrinal study
method – Item
2): If the relationship is a good one, the wife or man should not
separate on their own accord, in fact they should only do so by mutual
consent (agreement): (1Cor 7:5
[KJV]) Defraud ye not one the other, except
it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting
and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your
So, why would scripture make
mention to the wife leaving? The answer is in the words “or reconcile” in
verse 11, used by implication, the couple is having trouble in the
relationship. There is a problem that caused separation and to come back
together reconciliation will be required.
Let us now look at word meaning –
restore a friendly relationship; to bring back to harmony.
katallasso (ka-tal-las'-sō) v.
Let us use another analogy in full (observing the two
According to verse
10: Now after the boss said don’t leave for an hour; but now for some
reason the chair gets HOT, and you decide you could sit no longer and you
leave the chair and office (separate).
verse 11: You have decided to separate, but you cannot go to another chair
in another office on another job with another boss; you have to remain by
yourself (unmarried). Or you can look to see how best (both parties) you
can cool down the hot chair, so that you can again sit on it (reconcile the
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Question: In verse 11, the man was
given a direct command too, “Let not
the man put away his wife”. On the same note as a follow on from verse
10, does this mean the man has an option too?
The man should never put away his wife and the wife should
never leave the husband. They should only separate if they agree together
to do so, and it is specific to fasting etc. But in life things happen and
it can prove difficult to stay together. What do we do then/ follow and
obey the scripture. Consider the following words and verses in weighing
your decision on the matter.
To the woman that leaves her husband she should not commit the sin of adultery with another man, she
should stay alone or both seek to reconcile. The command is for the woman
to stay, but if she separates, a further command is for her not to marry
To a man, he should never put away his wife. If she (wife)
leaves under the cloud of a bad relationship and she stays alone, he should
not put her away. If however, he
puts her away and marries another, he then has committed the sin of
Any form of separation other than
the implied break up of a relationship (that requires reconciliation), must
be done by mutual agreement. Why? After you become one flesh with a person
as “marriage” is defined by the word*
(not by Rome – read below), your body is no longer your own but it now
belongs to the other. Two people are now one flesh
hence God expects what we call, “harmony of understanding”. In other words,
the relationship between a man and woman is paralleled and likened onto
Jesus and His church (wife); the believer is in Christ and Christ is in the
believer. Would you as a believer separate yourself from Christ – Stop
worshiping, praying, glorying, submitting (in case of wife), honoring,
respecting etc? If you will not do it to Christ, then why will you do it to
(Mark 10:11-12 [KJV])
And he saith
unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. 12 And
if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
Put away = divorce
Nb. Any marriage after a “putting away” is adultery in the
eyes of our God. So what happens in a second marriage of one person or both
in a church you ask? Read Mark 10:11-12 again for your answer.
Know ye not that the unrighteous
shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators,
nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of
themselves with mankind,
(1Cor 7:4 [KJV])
The wife hath not power of her own
body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his
own body, but the wife.
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HISTORY LESSON ON MARRIAGE
IMPORTANT READ FOR THOSE BELIEVERS THAT HAVE AN
EAR TO HEAR
*Listen to Animation on what Bible Marriage really is.
Also read Focus on the Family
and how they confirm that sex is marriage. After the first paragraph, they
however for whatever reason, still recommend going back to following the
Law of Rome.
Read the law from Rome that changed the definition of marriage
in 1563. It also changed the Bible definition of fornication, bastard,
adultery etc. So much damage was done to scripture by this law that it
takes carful study
Read the NEW law of Rome that was recently issued by the
Vatican’s Pope only just in 2016. As with 1563, in the next 500 years (if
the Lord tarries until 2516), Christians will live this new law too. Why?
Christians simply don’t study the bible and teachers/preachers are weak and
afraid to deal with deception and put people on the path of truth.
You either walk in the Law of Rome (disobedience) or you walk in
the law of God (obedience)